Before we move on to other things, I wanted to talk about the elephant in the room – FEAR.
We’ve all felt it. The moment we see a tiny red mark on our child’s cheek, or they say, “My arm hurts” or “Im tired”- those of us with children conquering chronic life-threatening illnesses know that this is not a statement to be taken lightly. But what DO we do with it? We all have different triggers. But they all have the same culprit and end result: FEAR. “What if they are regressing? What if it’s the disease coming back? What if this means more hospital time? What if… What if… What if…”
It’s not a sin to fear. It is a sin to allow fear to take over- because God implicitly tells us to FEAR NOT.
When we fear, it creates distance between us and our Father- which we can’t afford so, how do you not let it get the best of you? Especially when it pertains to your child? Especially when what we are used to dealing with is downright scary?
I have a few thoughts on this that may help you to see things analytically, and change the way you handle FEAR.
1. Fear is not an emotion. It is a choice, which leads to an emotion.
Have you ever thought about this? We think of fear as only an emotion that we have no control over, but this is not true. The bible says so, here: 2 Timothy 1:7
2. Fear is really just Negative Faith.
Positive Faith and Negative Faith (fear) are two opposite sides to the same coin. Both of these things are highly spiritual-
both of these things turn into beliefs,
which then in turn, become our behaviors (or actions),
which sows seeds,
which leads to a harvest (consequences) that we will one day reap.
(Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.)
Don’t get me wrong, I am in no way implying that it is because of our actions that our kids are where they are – at ALL. But, since we are here, let’s do what we can to change what we can!
Only one of these (faith or fear) move the hand of God. I wonder whose hand fear moves? Hmmm…
Chalk this one up to yet another verse we wish was not in the bible:
For the thing that I fear comes upon me, and what I dread befalls me. Job 3:25 (ESV)
Which came first? The chicken or the egg? The fear, or the that thing which was feared, actually befalling (or happening)?
I believe this verse lets us in on a little secret. Those things we fear, have the same effect – a spiritual law is a spiritual law, even in reverse. Remember the WISH post?
Fears, that are not brought under control, come upon us.
3. Fear is a wild beast, but it can be tamed.
We do have tools to TAME this beast. I know when I feel fear hot on my heels, I have several “go to’s”
A. I immediately put on worship music. It sets my eyes above, and suddenly everything else seems small in comparison to the ONE who spoke the Universe into being. And in the light of His presence.
B. I call on my friends to pray, listen, or talk some sense into me… (WHICHEVER applies).
C. I SPEAK to the fear, and tell it where it can go! Jesus did it! He told his temptation to “get behind me”. And we have the authority to do the same.
What do you do to tame the beast?
4. Fear is like a bird.
I love this analogy: Fear is like a bird flying over your head. Birds will fly. They may even land on you for a moment. But we must shoosh them off. Because if we don’t, they will build a nest, and live there. Are you shooshing away the birds?
5. Fear is a temptation that can be overcome.
I want you to start looking at FEAR differently from this day forward. It is nothing but an INVITATION to a house of horrors that you do NOT have to attend!!! This party SUCKS.
Every temptation that we befall as a human has one thing in common: THIS VERSE (for the sake of illustrating my point, I am going to replace the word temptations, with FEAR): 1 Corinthians 10:13 13
The (FEARS) in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the (FEAR) to be more than you can stand. When you are (invited to FEAR), he will show you a way out so that you can endure.
Look for the way out. (see #2).
Begin to see fear as an indulgence you cannot afford, a beast you must tame, a bird you must shoosh. Don’t indulge.
You’ll be amazed how much ground you can/will take when fear is not at the wheel, driving your decisions and life.